Boredom and Colour in our Relationship

Received phone call from RAV Counsellor at 8:45am this morning – she related some of the observations from last week

• Sense of Nina pushing away
  
• Me not interested when I say "don't know"
  
• Breadth vs depth (Nina has greater breadth, with me having greater depth - very complimentary)
  
• Noted that I plan with contingencies – for instance around Nina's 5 year limit
  
• My feeling of walking on egg shells
  
• No shared marriage identity
  
• Boredom featured in Nina's comments - boredom and restlessness
  
• From the Intelligent Emotion book, there was a section on Boredom
  
  • Boredom is related to not living in the present
    
  • Boredom is equivalent to apathy
    
  • Feelings give colour to life
    
  • Boredom is a desire for desires
    
• Nina's comments than nobody was listening
  
• Nina's comments on feeling like an outsider
  
• Nina saying that she wished she was a boy - interesting to ask / think about why
  
• Thought for discussion - how can we add more colour to our relationship
  
  • What colours are presently there?