Relationship Counselling - Fourth Session

This is written about three weeks after the event, so the details are a little vague ...

One thing that our counsellor asked today was for each of us to nominate a favourite movie or book. Nina nominated Jane Eyre, and I nominated the song Lemon Tree.

One of the issues that came up today was about contempt and it became very clear that our counsellor considers it almost a cardinal sin. This came up because of a conversation Nina had about her parents and whether the way their relationship was was sufficient reason for them to split up.

We were given some reading on "The Primal Wound" that talked about babies separated from their parents at birth and how this affects them - this is also particularly relevant for Nina's mother (who was adopted), and also for Nina, who had her mother disappear into hospital for some extended stays when she was young.

We were also given some reading on relationships - blockers, things to make them better, etc.

At the end of the session, I mentioned not being sure what I was trying to achieve in the individual sessions, and noted that one of the things was to be more aggressive - not in a bad way - the better word that was suggested was to be more passionate.